I was facilitating a self-awareness workshop recently and I offered an example of a boss who just didn’t get it about how his actions affected his employees. There was a collective groan of recognition from the group and several participants shared their horror stories. Many bosses don’t understand how they’re affecting the people around them. Here are some of the signs of a boss who lacks self-awareness:
- Is always in his (or her) own head and only sees things from his perspective.
- Doesn’t ask for input from others.
- Doesn’t take other people’s needs or feelings into account.
- Everything needs to be done his way and there’s no room for negotiation.
- Keeps making the same mistakes over and over.
- Has a great deal of difficulty with change.
- Doesn’t take even well-intentioned comments or suggestions about his performance well.
It’s not that bosses who behave this way are awful people, it’s just that they don’t know how to do things any other way. The good news is that any boss can build up his self-awareness by looking at himself, keeping the behaviors that work and getting rid of what doesn’t. It’s a process where he learns about himself and the people around him. The end result is that the boss and his employees are happier and their workplace runs more smoothly. What will you do to become a self-aware boss?