Self-Awareness Workshops

Self-Awareness

Getting Relationship Help that Works

Many people who have relationship problems think that they can fix them themselves or get help from friends and family. The difficulty with this approach is that not everyone is qualified to help us find the answers we want. They may mean well and love us very much but they may not have a clue on how to actually fix a problem. Ask yourself the following questions next time you are looking for someone to help you with your relationship challenges.

Does this person have a track record of expert relationship problem solving?
Does this person listen unconditionally without giving advice?
Does this person help you come up with your own answers?
Is this person too close to the situation or not objective enough?
Does the person have anything to gain from a specific outcome?
Has this person had any training in fixing relationships?

These basic questions highlight the importance of getting help that will not only make you feel better or supported but, additionally, to find help that helps you create the results you want. The advice you get from others may be kind and supportive but does the problem go away?

I often hear from my clients that it is difficult to seek outside help. We are often taught that we need to fix things ourselves or should not trust anyone outside of friends and family. The good news is that an outside person or coach can help you make a problem go away. A supportive coach has the skills and experience to help you move in any direction you choose.

The next time you have a relationship problem and need help, think of contacting a coach. Interview them and find out if they would work well with you. Find out if they can help you create the results you want. You may be pleasantly surprised with the range of helpful services a coach can provide you. You may also contact me with any questions on coaching or how it can be helpful to you.

Take care,

Guy


Your Journey

Your self-awareness journey is particular to you. It will go in any direction that you commit to going. That means that you get to choose what you do and how you move forward. Don’t worry about what others say, it’s up to you which path you take. The key is to make decisions based on your authentic self and enjoy the trip.

Take care,

Guy


You Decide What Self-Awareness Is

Self-awareness is whatever you decide you want it to be based on what’s important to you and how you want to grow. It’s often the process of identifying areas in your life that you want to improve and taking action to make things happen. Self-awareness is most challenging when you’re uncomfortable in some way and genuinely motivated to change your thoughts or behaviors. You have to be ready to address the issue and willing to work on it until you generate positive results.

It’s advisable to approach self-awareness as an ongoing process rather than a quick fix. Deeper change requires long-term commitment and effort.

Take care,

Guy

Do You Love Yourself?

Have you ever known someone who says they love themselves but seems to be angry at the world or always has awful relationships? The general guideline for someone who loves herself is that she becomes more balanced, more accepting, kinder and more happy.

Learning how to love ourselves begins with self-knowledge. Do you really love yourself? A good way of finding out is to evaluate whether you do things that help or hurt you in relationships. List the things that you allow to happen that are uplifting and then a list of the ones that bring you down. Do you have more things in your life that make you feel great or a larger number of disappointments? If you have a significant number of negative items on your list, don’t worry this just a tool to give you an idea of what to work on first. Look at your list and pick one thing from the negative side that you want to work on, the one that jumps out at you the most. Congratulate yourself because you have now started the process of working on self-love.

Take care,

Guy

Celebrate Yourself

Treating yourself well is as much a habit as a state of mind. It’s a good idea to cut yourself some slack and celebrate the things you do well. We spend so much time beating ourselves up that we forget that we possess wonderful skills and abilities. Ask yourself the following questions to begin thinking about how great you are.

1. What do I do well?
2. What do I love to do?
3. What thing do I do that truly makes me happy?
4. What can I do to reward myself today in a positive way?
5. What am I an expert on?
6. What can I do today to take care of myself?

Practice one of these ideas each day and teach yourself how to live a life of positive self reinforcement rather than negativity. Learn to be your own best supporter, a person who recongnizes the amazing things about you. Don’t be afraid of doing something silly like saying affirmations to yourself out loud. You have a unique power to be your own best supporter. It just takes a little practice and perserverance.

Keep doing it and, over time, you will shift your way of thinking to one that celebrates the things that make you special.

Take care,

Guy